advice, Identity, Parenting, Self-Improvement

Who Do You Want to Be?

You get to decide WHO you want to be … 

This was but one lesson I’ve tried teaching my children in the last week or so … it started with a bean bag toss game, in which we attempted to throw bean bags (in our case, Mr. Noodles) into a bucket … the kids did this with ease.

But when we added a blindfold, it was (obviously) much harder for them to hit their target.

This is SO TRUE for ALL of us, isn’t it?

Don’t we need a bit of a “target”? Somewhere to “fix our eyes”? Something specific to work towards?

Without a target, we find ourselves “wandering” about willy nilly … we can’t seem to focus on anything … we jump from thing to thing …

Is it time for you to set some “targets”? Some specific “goals”? 

Is it time for you to set a certain KIND of target? Like maybe the MOST IMPORTANT type of target possible?

Is it time for you to decide WHO you want to be?

When we get intentional about WHO we want to be, we can “target” our steps … we can “focus” our actions … we can CHOOSE our behaviours …  

Do you want to be a person with self-control?

Do you want to be a person who lends a hand?

Do you want to be a person with confidence?

Do you want to give generously (but without anyone knowing it)?

Do you want to be a person who thinks of others?

Do you want to be a good listener?

Do you want to be healthy?

Do you want to be a good friend?

Do you want to be trustworthy?

What kind of parent do you want to be? What kind of spouse? What kind of employee?

There is MUCH to consider when we actually start to give it some thought. The possibilities ARE countless it seems. 

But it’s up to YOU to set the target … then practice … aim … focus … get intentional with your actions and your behaviours … day after day after day …

Feeling particularly discouraged with my child’s behaviour last weekend, I “called upon” the wisdom of this lesson telling her, “I can’t MAKE you behave in a certain way. Sure, I can put consequences in place for poor behaviour, but, ultimately, in the end, YOU will have to decide if you will CHANGE your behaviour or not. YOU will have to decide if your behaviour aligns with WHO you want to be.”

SHE needs to decide WHO she wants to be! 

I KNOW she’s young yet, but I really do believe it’s TIME for HER to start thinking about this sort of thing.

Does she want to be someone who cooperates with others? 

Does she want to be someone who does what she’s asked?

Does she want to be someone who complains?

Does she want to be someone who cares for her things?

Does she want to be honest?

Does she want to be responsible?

Does she want to be kind?

SHE gets to decide …

We ALL get to decide actually!

Young, old, or somewhere in between, we are all “works in progress” … we can ALL benefit from “removing the blindfold” … we are all served by “setting a target.” 

Is it time for you to decide WHO you want to be?

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