A week or so ago, I sat down with a blank piece of paper. I drew a large circle in the middle, then wrote the words “My Circle of Control” along the top edge.
This was something I knew I had to take a few minutes to sit down and work on …
My recent feelings of discouragement with all of the current limitations in place due to COVID-19 were starting to get the best of me …
Outside my circle, I jotted down things that were OUTSIDE of my circle of control …
- the weather
- my children (their moods, their behaviours, etc.) … THINK ABOUT HOW MUCH ENERGY WE INVEST INTO TRYING TO “CONTROL” OUR CHILDREN
- my husband (his mood, his action (or inaction), his work schedule, etc.) … AGAIN, THINK ABOUT HOW MUCH TIME AND ENERGY WE WASTE IN BITTERNESS, RESENTMENT, AND FRUSTRATION …
- cancelled annual camping trips
- limited access to parks and playgrounds
- a small “circle” …
- small gatherings …
- the “icky” parts of my job
- having ALL the kids home while working
- how other people interpret or “react” to my writing
- who actually reads my work
Then I started filling up the inside of my circle … the things I CAN CONTROL … like …
- how I “show up” each day
- how I take care of myself
- my (our) schedule / household routines
- how I react to what’s going on around me
- my words … though this can be especially hard sometimes
- the state of my house
- what I feed my family
- what I eat or drink
- what I wear
- who I spend my time with … except right now we’re still practicing social distancing and trying to keep “our circle” small
- what I do in my free time
- how I spend (or don’t spend) my money
- how I go about my work
- what/how much we learn from home … though the curriculum content is out of my control
- screen time
- what we do for fun
- what I bring into (and keep) in our home
I share this with you today, because of the value this exercise can bring to your life … we waste so much time and energy on things we CAN’T control …
We complain about the weather.
We get irritated with our kids … our partners.
We wallow in self-pity.
When we focus on the things we CAN control …
We become more intentional.
We can set goals and work on the things (inside the circle) … like the state of our house or setting up a daily self-care routine.
We get creative … innovative …
We work with (and make the best of) what we have.
When you lay it all out like this, it seems obvious where we should invest our time and our energy … don’t you think?
Where are YOU investing your energy today?
Here’s the My Circle of Control: Worksheet post to help you figure it all out!