Being Productive, Domestic Responsibilities, Identity, joy

What’s Going to Happen?

Work before play … work before play … work before play … this concept has (somehow) been ingrained into the very core of my being … no time for fun … no fun allowed … forget about fun … 

Work … work … work … oh, you’ve got some “spare” time? Get to work! Surely, there’s something productive you could be doing … clean something … organize something … declutter something … oh, you want to read something? Well, make sure it’s useful … learn something … be something more … find something new to work on … oh, you want to watch something? No smut allowed … learn … grow … be more … do more …

My inner dialogue, when even CONSIDERING something remotely fun, gets so sickening sometimes … it’s life squashing … it’s joy sucking … and it’s REALLY been getting to me lately … 

Yes, being productive and accomplishing things and taking care of our responsibilities is important … but you know what else is important? 


And laughter! 

And joy! 

And while we sometimes believe “fun” to be expensive and extravagant and all-encompassing … like hot holidays or big get-aways or special events, “fun” doesn’t have to be a major event in your life. It can be invited in and welcomed in many small ways throughout your day … 

  • add some music and a little kitchen dancing to your meal-prep time
  • take a few minutes to try out some diamond painting at the kitchen table … heck, maybe even really mix it up and do some diamond painting AND Iisten to a “for fun” audiobook that outlines the trials of motherhood in a humourous, light-hearted way … don’t forget to smile when the author says something that really “hits home”
  • tinker away on the keyboard in the basement … heck, maybe even pretend you can sing … singing is SO MUCH FUN … 
  • play hide-and-seek with the kids … even I can get behind the excitement and anticipation of being “found”
  • be spontaneous … it’s OKAY (and actually even kind of fun) to break out into a random game of wet sock tag with the whole family sometimes
  • take a few minutes to love on your precious house plants
  • sew something
  • listen to a funny podcast
  • or get jokes sent to your phone … 

Lately, when I hear my “inner critic” questioning me about my attempts to have fun (especially DURING THE DAY, DURING THE WEEK … because Lord knows weekdays are supposed to be drudgery, right?), I speak aloud, “What’s going to happen?” 

  • What’s going to happen if I sit down for a few minutes with a cup of tea and get lost in putting this puzzle together?
  • What’s going to happen if I revive my love for needlework while I catch up with my husband for the day?
  • What’s going to happen if I sit down and paint a cow or a candy cane or an ice cream cone with my daughter?
  • What’s going to happen if I go to my computer and write something?
  • What’s going to happen if I sit down with the kids to colour MY OWN colouring page?
  • What’s going to happen if I go for a ski with a friend?


You know what’s going to happen? 


Nothing catastrophic anyway. 

Nothing devastating. 

Nothing life-altering (at least not in the bad, scary sort of way, I might think).

Nothing out-of-this-world crazy. 


Except … 

I might be happier … 

I might have a little extra spring in my step … 

a touch more joy in my heart … 

a few more blessings to count … 

and a few more precious, precious moments to savour.

Is it time to make a list of things you really, really love? Things you think are fun? Head over here for a worksheet to get you started. And if you’re really serious about incorporating a few “loves” into your life, why not set a SMART Goal or two to really get yourself going?

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